You should try a CBD based lube! Foria welless has a great plant based, organic option that has steller reviews from people with all different types of needs. Painful sex, post partum sex, muscles tension etc. etc.
Organic coconut oil is natural, readily available & awesome!
I also have pain with intercourse, and with some lubes I have burning. I’ve tried Lola personal lube, it is free of any chemicals or scents but sometimes it still irritates me. So coconut oil is the best!
Caroline, I love Babeland’s “BabeLube.” It is great for both toys and penetration because it is a mix of silicone and water. No smell and it is made without parabens. Also for a 16oz bottle, $22 is a steal.