Caroline, I love Babeland’s “BabeLube.” It is great for both toys and penetration because it is a mix of silicone and water. No smell and it is made without parabens. Also for a 16oz bottle, $22 is a steal.
Organic coconut oil is natural, readily available & awesome!
I also have pain with intercourse, and with some lubes I have burning. I’ve tried Lola personal lube, it is free of any chemicals or scents but sometimes it still irritates me. So coconut oil is the best!
You should try a CBD based lube! Foria welless has a great plant based, organic option that has steller reviews from people with all different types of needs. Painful sex, post partum sex, muscles tension etc. etc.