Hi – I am in the exact same boat. I just realized that I am now in medically-induced menopause and it actually explains a lot.
My friends are all having sex every day or every other day and if my partner and I do once every 2 weeks, it’s a big deal. Mainly because the pain for me is bad but also I just never think of it, I don’t feel sexual the way I used to… My partner is amazing but it is still super difficult to talk about and have someone understand.